Friday, May 02, 2008

the most awesome compliment ever!

My favorite Director came up to me, she just got back from a tradeshow.
 
And she says to me, "You'll love this story."
 
"When I was at the tradeshow, I was just so depressed over how behind we are. And I was screaming that we need to reinvent ourselves."
 
"Uh-huh."
 
"So they were telling me about all these people who are working on it...and I just go,
 
NO! We need someone like SECRETARY!!!!!!!!"
 
Isn't that just the coolest compliment ever?!!!

Thursday, May 01, 2008

Who Got My Donation...

Hey congrats! I am understandibly curious as to who got your mulaah!

Flyinfox_SATX

Well, it was Barack Obama of course! :)

YES WE CAN!

Eating with Other Secretaries in a Buffet Setting Sucks.

We had a potential caterer come in to show us their wares today. What they usually do is feed us lunch.
 
OMG
 
Eating with other secretaries sucks.
 
They talk to themselves as they go through the line. They talk about how much food they didn't mean to take. Oh my God, that is so much more than I meant to end up with as they munch.
 
They eat so daintily. They are very careful about how they might touch the food and they wonder where the tongs are even though the bread they touched is going straight from the tray to their plate with no stops along the way. You can see them trying to gauge if they've taken as much as the other people or more than them or less than them.
 
Except for Twiggy. She doesn't care. And she MAKES SURE she gets whatever it is that she wants. She's like the secretary that grew up in a ginormous family where the motto was, 'Get it before it's gone!'
 
I don't know what the deal is...but eating with a group of these people is just a big tension ball, I swear.

Wednesday, April 30, 2008

A first for me...

I made my first political donation today. I have never ever done that before; never cared enough AND never had enough money to do it. Yes, that's right, I didn't even have $25 to donate. But today I just felt very strongly that my donation could make a small difference and that I wanted to make that difference, so out came the debit card and voila - I have donated. I 'own a piece' of the campaign!!! LOL

Monday, April 21, 2008

She's a Hottie - Thanks for objectifying women Toby Keith!

I especially like the part about how you plucked your sweet little thang off the farm, dressed her up like she's a goddamn doll, and hung her sweet ass off your arm.

Nobody objectifies a woman better than Toby Keith!!! Lucky you! It's a skill you can take to the bank, apparently, Toby.

I actually like Toby Keith. I just feel a little pissy. But I am right, even so.

Our Alliance With Saudi Arabia Is Disgusting

Look at what they do to women! What is wrong with us? Even Iran treats women better!
Oh yes that's right...we're trying to avoid $4.00 a gallon gas prices so our fat a$$es don't have to walk anywhere! SO MUCH MORE IMPORTANT THAN BASIC HUMAN RIGHTS.

You know what? GOD DAMN AMERICA! We're fucking disgusting when we support shit like this. Gotta love how capitalism worships the fuckin dollar.

Saudi women 'kept in childhood'

Saudi women in Hofuf
Women cannot make even simple decisions on children, the report says

Saudi women are being kept in perpetual childhood so male relatives can exercise "guardianship" over them, the Human Rights Watch group has said.

The New York-based group says Saudi women have to obtain permission from male relatives to work, travel, study, marry or even receive health care.

Their access to justice is also severely constrained, it says.

The group says the Saudi establishment sacrifices basic human rights to maintain male control over women.

Saudi Arabia is the only country in the world where women are not allowed to drive.

Saudi clerics see the guardianship of women's honour as a key to the country's social and moral order.

'No progress'

The report, Perpetual Minors: Human Rights Abuses Stemming from Male Guardianship and Sex Segregation in Saudi Arabia, draws on more than 100 interviews with Saudi women.

Farida Deif, women's rights researcher for the Middle East at Human Rights Watch, said: "Saudi women won't make any progress until the government ends the abuses that stem from these misguided policies."


It's astonishing that the Saudi government denies adult women the right to make decisions for themselves but holds them criminally responsible for their actions at puberty

Farida Deif,
Human Rights Watch

The report says that Saudi women are denied the legal right to make even trivial decisions for their children - women cannot open bank accounts for children, enrol them in school, obtain school files or travel with their children without written permission from the child's father.

Human Rights Watch says that Saudi women are prevented from accessing government agencies that have no established female sections unless they have a male representative.

The need to establish separate office spaces for women is a disincentive to hiring female employees, and female students are often relegated to unequal facilities with unequal academic opportunities, the report says.

Male guardianship over adult women also contributes to their risk of exposure to violence within the family as victims of violence find it difficult to seek protection or redress from the courts.

Social workers, physicians and lawyers say that it is nearly impossible to remove guardianship from male guardians who are abusive, the group says.

"It's astonishing that the Saudi government denies adult women the right to make decisions for themselves but holds them criminally responsible for their actions at puberty," said Ms Deif.

"For Saudi women, reaching adulthood brings no rights, only responsibilities."

Friday, April 18, 2008

OK...so why are you getting so political on me all of a sudden? If we would have done this my way we would not be in this mess. I have always wanted a parking lot in Iraq....

Flyinfox_SATX

>>>I don't know. One day I just started caring about politics again. Weird. It seems that things are sucking these days and I'm tired of this world sucking.

By the way, you do realize that Iraqis kinda like their country and that Iraq is the home of Mesopotamia, a very historically important part of the world, right?

Thursday, April 17, 2008

Withdrawal of Troops From Iraq

Last night Hillary and Barack had a debate...
 
..."And Mrs. Clinton and Mr. Obama said that as president, they would execute promises to begin the withdrawal of American troops from Iraq, even if their military commanders at the time advised them that it would be wiser to keep troops on the ground."
 
This quote is straight out of the New York Times. Here is a link: http://www.nytimes.com/2008/04/17/us/politics/17debate.html?pagewanted=2&_r=1&th&emc=th
 
I really like Barack Obama, but this is probably one of the stupidest things that a president could do. Who do they think will fill the void that we leave?
 
There are many answers. As in Afghanistan, it could be radical Muslims like the Taliban, who claimed that the missiles and bombs that routed the Russians out of their country were sent by God when in fact they were paid for and shipped there by the United States. The Taliban filled the void we left when that country was left with a population of poor, uneducated kids to run it, after the US provided bombs but not education or any other aid to help that country rebuild. Stupid, stupid, stupid. And then what do we find ourselves doing years later? Fighting the terrorists that that situation helped create; that our own short sightedness created.
 
And let's not forget that Iran would love to form a strong partnership with Iraq. Oh and did I mention that Iran is not a fan of the United States? And isn't Russia a friend of Iran's? And aren't they also not fans of the US?
 
WHY DON'T WE JUST GO GET A GUN AND SHOOT OURSELVES WHILE WE'RE AT IT? Cause THAT'S what doing this would do to us!
 
I wish the American public were not so stupid and fickle. As soon as the Iraq war became real, as soon as it was no longer entertaining, but dirty and murderous, which is the reality of war, the American public suddenly no longer wanted to fight the war. WE ARE LIKE LITTLE CHILDREN! And we should be ashamed of ourselves.
 
Maybe we shouldn't have gone into Iraq, but that was what the American public wanted, so that's what we got. Now that it no longer serves as entertainment, we want to just abandon the citizenry of Iraq. We want to stop rebuilding the country we helped destroy. Rebuilding stuff isn't fun, is it? Not nearly as entertaining. Right my fellow Americans?

Thursday, April 03, 2008

Wednesday, April 02, 2008

Anyone who thinks Obama's Religion is Relevant in this Race is Stupid.

If I get one more email from my conservative friends about how Obama is a closet Muslim, I will scream. Or implode. I'd rather implode than explode. It would be rude for everyone to get covered in guts.

People are SO STUPID. Who gives a fuck if Obama is a Muslim? IT'S INAPPROPRIATE TO EVEN ASK THIS QUESTION. Just like JFK's religion was irrelevant, so is Obama's. Shit, maybe it would be GOOD if he were Muslim, because maybe we'd have a better relationship with the Middle East. Maybe our country would get a better understanding of where these folks are coming from.

Oh wait...that wouldn't really work, since terrorism is not about religion but is actually about economics and America's fucked up foreign policy. Islam's got nothing to do with it, aside from being used as a tool by some psychos to get disillusioned young men and women to hate the immoral Americans.

Good God people...THINK. Don't just suck up whatever the media and propaganda artists (is there an actual difference?) tell you!

Monday, March 24, 2008

Update -- Mackistani

Some taxi driver on St. Patrick's Day asked the Mack if he was Irish.
 
The Mack has a habit of calling my friend Lachelle 'Lachanda Williams' for some reason.
 
So Lachelle wanted to give the Mack an Irish nickname.
 
Hmmmm...Irish and Muslim, Irish and Muslim...
 
The Mack's real first name is Aamer. You pronounce it like this "ahhh-mur" First syllable is stressed.
 
So I got a nickname for him...
 
Ready for this?
 
It's genius!!
 
'Aamer McBomber'!!!!!!
 
Mack laughed so hard at that. But he told me I couldn't tell anyone. Ok I won't. So then I told my friend Cecilia, Lachelle, and now you. LOL. Man I am horrible!
 
In other news, Mack got a job working at an outdoor clothing company up in Maine. I guess he's going to get paid a lot. Yay! He left on Sunday and I was really sad about that. Right now I am so busy packing that I haven't got time for the pain (thanks Carly!). He will visit us once a month. I personally think he should be able to do twice a month, but whatever.
 
Dee's behaviors are up right now as a result of his departure. I am sure that is a large part of why she is behaving so terribly. He has become important to her. I thought I was going to have to do a therapeutic hold last night. She will calm down soon, I am hoping. It greatly irritates me that Mack doesn't understand that her behaviors do become worse when he leaves. But then I have a hard time dealing with it too. I think Dee and I both have some anger about it. We're not necessarily ticked at him, but at the situation. Though I admit I do have some resentment about it. Oh well.

Update -- Moving on Friday

Guess what? We are moving to a house next Friday. Just renting, but it's really pretty cool. The house was recently renovated and has a big backyard and a driveway, is in the perfect location for us, cute kitchen, nice living room, good bedrooms...it's great for us!
 
I guess I should thank the Mack for his bad advice. Here's what it consisted of.
 
M: "They sent you a letter saying I yelled at the Resident Manager? I didn't yell at her! That lady is very TREE-cherous!"
 
Me: "Well just let me handle interactions with the RMs. You're not on the lease you know. Didn't you think what would happen if you did that? What I'd have to deal with?"
 
M: "I'm really sorry. But you should MOVE! These people are TREE-cherous!!!"
 
Me: "Umm, I don't have a place to move to..."
 
M: "Just give your notice."
 
Me: "Isn't that like a bad idea, since we don't have a place to move to yet?"
 
M: "Oh don't be scared. They can't throw you out!" Awww, my man is so protective. He will protect us from the evil landlord!
 
I said to myself, this is a bad idea. Then my mouth moved and here's what came out...."Well...ok."
 
Hey guess what what I found out when I followed the advice and gave the notice but then decided we didn't want to move? Uhhh...yeah they can. Basically, your lease ends on the date that you specified when you gave notice and that means that there is no document covering your stay there. I can speak with authority here because after that phone call which was a rude awakening for me, I called three attorneys to figure it out, since the Mack was basically like, "Oh they can't throw you out. Get an attorney; I will pay!" So what that means is that the landlord will start an action on your a$$. Yeah no thanks, I don't need that mess.
 
Why do men insist on fighting with every dang person? Or I guess just this man?
 
So after my rude awakening, and confirmation that I was indeed up a creek made out of fecal matter and no paddles aside from my hands to get out of the poop creek, I had a talk with the Mack.
 
"You give the worst advice on the planet! I'm never listening to you again!! How could I have been so stupid to give my notice without a new place to live?"
 
Now he's laughing. "I'm sorry! I thought they couldn't throw you out!" Now we're both laughing for some insane reason.
 
We had looked at this lovely little house on that Sunday (this all went down Tuesday). We had liked it but the Mack wanted to buy a house for us this summer. So I called up the landlord and let him know we'd take it. Thankfully, he hadn't rented it to the two flakey girls that had looked at it at the same time as us. I wouldn't have rented it to them either. I guess my idea about putting makeup, jewelry, and nice clothes on when we went to go look at the house, and arriving on the time for the appointment, worked after all!

Friday, March 07, 2008

Dear God, Please Help Me with My Research Paper Topic

Dear God,
 
I am clueless as to what I should write about on my research paper for this English class, my first college course in over five years. Much is riding on this course!
 
If I succeed, it will not only not be a waste of my $200, but it will also spur me on to greater success, we hope. :)
 
Do I expect too much from myself? Is a B not acceptable in this class? It's just English Comp II. I just have to write a research paper. I hate writing those. I can do it though!
 
Ok, what to write about --
 
1. Something about foster children.
2. Something about the fact that money, not human interest, drives all America's incursions into other countries.
3. Something about attachment disorders and children's mental health issues?
4. Something about that landlords using consumer credit checks to make housing decisions is tantamount to discrimination in housing?
 
What to write about?
 
 

Tuesday, March 04, 2008

You've Come a Long Way Baby

Sometimes having a blog that you've had for three or four years can be quite instructive.
 
I reviewed the March entries for 2005-2008 and wow there has been quite a change.
 
March 2005 - Living with Dee and ExBoyfriend...feeling miserable, dedicating a lot of time and energy to the blog while at work. Obsessed about crocheting things. Weaning off of Prozac, still in therapy and dealing with my ex mentor, Holly. TONS of blog posts.
 
March 2006 - Happily in program, off Prozac, just found out that Ex was cheating for the last time. Rebuilding relationship with Dee. Less blog posts, but still plenty.
 
March 2007 - Only 1 post in March this year; obsessing about whether TherapyBoy is right about me being passive aggressive. Obsessed with dating. I hadn't posted about it, but I had just met the Mackistani. I hinted at it, saying that things are looking up in dating and I will post about it later.
 
March 2008 - One year into relationship with the Mackistani, adopted Dee in August 2007. About to move out of my apartment and into a house, hopefully. Working on it. Been in program since early 2006. One payment from getting out of debt and then I am done. I've made amends to Dee, to Holly, to my mom, to my supervisor...next up, who knows? I'm on Step Nine, in which you learn how liberating it is to clean up your past mistakes! VERY liberating! In many unexpected ways. Like financially. Weird! For some reason, when your past history is no longer threatening you, you don't feel like spending yourself silly or stuffing yourself silly. Amazing! Nothing to hide means nothing to hide. No energy spent to hide it, no dishonesty to worry about.
 
Kewl.

Monday, March 03, 2008

I Think He's the One

Now if I write this we will break up. Ugh. But it's just too warm and fuzzy not to post this!!!!!
 
So on Sunday we had yuck-a-riffic weather. Sleet turning into ice and it was seriously cold my friend. We stayed home almost all day but the Mack had a huge bag, a yellow bag rivalling Santa's on Christmas Eve, of yucky dirty clothes. Well, rewind that. How dirty can they be? He's a geek. Plus he's Muslim. So, not that dirty.
 
Anyhoo! It is nice to be able to walk into the closet again. I'm pretty excited about that!
 
THE POINT is that he had to take his stuff to the laundromat last night.  So before he leaves, he tells Dee for some unknown reason that he will bring her back some candy and put it on the coffee table for her to devour in the morning. Which she definitely did, as she proudly displayed the last remaining almond from her chocolate bar to me this morning.
 
So off he goes to the laundromat. Meanwhile, I putz around the house, drink a margarita, try to get happy, lol, you know the drill.
 
He returns around 10pm, steps in the door, and exclaims that, 'Sh*t, I forgot her candy.'
 
'Uh oh. What are you going to do? You promised.'
 
'I will just walk down to the gas station and get one for her.'
 
'Ok babe.' :)
 
So off he goes out into the cold to WALK down to the gas station that's two blocks away. Imagine that, WALKING somewhere. Wow! Even Dee couldn't wrap her head around that idea just last Tuesday when the Mack had me drop them at the gas station so I could hurry up and go get my hair done. He needed to get something and just had me drop them there. More on that later. :)
 
So the Mack finally comes back and I'm like, 'How did it go honey?'
 
And he's like, 'Why didn't you REMIND me to get the candy bar or something? The gas station was closed. I walked there and then had to walk back and get my car and go somewhere else!'
 
I then gently say, 'I didn't remind you because it was your idea in the first place darling.'
 
Then he produces an extra candy bar and offers it to me. Of course I decline. So then he jokingly comes up with the lovely imaginative idea that I could try sticking it in my a$$. To which I reply, "Oh honey, I could never do something so wasteful with an item that you went through so much hardship to attain." And then we both laughed. A lot.
 
So the point of this long-a$$ post is that he went through h*ll (relatively) and high water (metaphorically) to keep his word to this little girl who's been disappointed so much! Can you believe that?!!!!
 
Ok he is definitely the one. I want to marry this guy, convert to Islam, whatever, and have like many children with him. Plus I want to do his laundry for him and wait on him hand and foot because he is the ONE and he loves me and my not-so-lovable-at-first daughter!!!!! I don't care if his first gift to me ever was mouthwash and Summer's Eve!!!!

Tuesday, February 19, 2008

I have enough FART

We had curried chickpeas on Sunday afternoon. Dee had them also for Sunday night dinner.
 
So you could say she was a little 'musical' after consuming chickpeas twice.
 
Last night I offered Dee a banana.
 
'No thank you! I already have FART! I don't need anymore!'
 
Point taken.

Don't Go to the Doctor's Without Makeup ON

If you typically ALWAYS wear makeup and happen to be sick or fat at the same time that you are NOT wearing makeup, stay away from the doctor's office.
 
He will offer you Prozac, a hug, and a gastric bypass.
 
 

Tuesday, February 12, 2008

Update

Things are going well.
 
Mack doesn't plan on moving to Chicago, he is now looking for jobs HERE. Yes, HERE. And starting a business HERE. And he told me last night that I am the best thing to happen to him in Omaha.
 
Mack has now been fully integrated into our little family and I daresay we are a family unit now. He's referring to himself as Dad and referring to he and I collectively as Mommy and Daddy when he speaks to Dee. As in, "Don't worry, Mommy and Daddy are just having a heated conversation." Did I report this yet? I think so.
 
Anyway, I just feel so happy. I was having some doubts when he went to Florida for three weeks, and then was too late coming back for the special weekend I'd planned for us. Man I was p*ssed about that. 
 
But he has been *so different* since coming back from Florida. Mack is so loving, so nice, so frickin adorable, generous with his time and his feelings and resources, and he's stepping into the role of Dee's father. He's helping me put my life together, appreciates my time and talents, encourages me in my goals, in exactly the way I need, is invested in how Dee is raised, you name it.
 
He listens to me, he respects me when we argue. And we have so much fun together. He is just what I didn't know that I needed. God really does work in mysterious ways.
 
There is no engagement to report at this time, but we love each other very much and we are planning a future together. Mack and I have both been burned in marriage before, so we are taking our time. Things look really good though. :) You know what is weird? Sometimes he reminds me of my dad...the good parts about my dad, not the bad parts.
 
This March on the 30th will be the anniversary of our first date, if I have the date right. :)
 
I keep questioning how this happened to me, how did I find someone like this? I may look foolish if I post this and things don't go well, but I will post it anyway. He's so perfect for me....geeky but not entirely, loves Dee, loves me, loves growth and change, agrees with me on so many things. He's so....rational. LOL. I think it took a good long while for my walls to come down but I can finally say they are completely down now. And I think his are as well. I feel a strong, strong connection to the Mack. :) It feels very secure.
 
Dee continues to do well. Her performance in school is improving as well. We are changing her meds and I haven't had to do holding therapy in I don't know how long. She talked to her mom on the phone on Saturday...not sure that was wise. It bothers me that whenever C has any contact with Dee, she wants more and more. I try to put that aside...even after the phone call, I felt queasy. And Dee did try to pull some stuff...not as bad as last time but it was there...so I think they are not ready for more just yet.
 
I don't know how my family is...we don't speak a whole lot....which is as I like it. For now.
 
As for work -- things are good here. I am having the worst time getting to bed on time and therefore showing up on time. ERG! More than that, though, is that the number of people that I support continues to grow. I have so much to do that I don't know where to start and finding time to do expenses is getting to be more challenging. I have seven reports on my desk to file right now. I will find some time when I can stay late and do them. The Mack is helping more and more with the child so that helps.
 
That's about it for now. Tonight we will probably go and celebrate V day since the Mack is going to Texas to jobhunt and play some tennis plus buy a car for sale, which is what he does when he's unemployed. He'll be gone for about ten days and that'll be a nice time to get my program going stronger again. :)

Monday, January 28, 2008

Exciting News!!!

Well kids, I have been mulling for a while what direction I should take in my education -- what will be attainable and what won't be, and navigating the waters of the unknown.

Vocal music would be unattainable. I would have to quit my full time job and that's not an option.

I don't like business degrees.

So I found this two year Liberal Arts transfer degree at our local community college, which is an awesome school. And I signed up for my first class, which is English Comp II. They snapped my picture for the student ID, I look pretty good. :)

So I'm now a college student. :o)

Wednesday, January 23, 2008

So Many SPECIAL People

You would not believe how many special people there are here at ABC Nuts and Bolts. First off, there are VPs around every frickin corner. Considering how many there are, if I were a VP, I would be fearing for my job. Or plotting the demise of the others. Take your pick.

And, apparently, every VP needs to have a parking space in the heated garage. Sales has about 13 of those. I support three of those ten folks. Yay for me!

And yet, even though I support three of those folks, I hardly ever get to park in the garage. I have to make sure I get here EARLY in order to make my claim lest someone else snag my spot!

And the 'special' epidemic isn't just at the corporate headquarters building. It's also at the crappy buildings. I was just over at the crappiest of them all yesterday. And I'm trying to find a place to park and sure enough, there was one visitor spot, 2 handicapped spots, and all the other good spots were RESERVED!  IE -- Vice President parking!!! God, how many can there be? Enough to populate a small town? People, a recession is coming, may have already hit -- and these folks will start finding out how 'special' they are when the Company starts deciding how they can prop up profits.

Just TRY arriving late and finding a decent parking spot in the morning here at the Corporate Headquarters. Try it more than once! You will soon find that if you judged this company's goodwill toward its employees by the number of available desireable parking spots, you would judge that goodwill to be non-existent. And now they're even leasing out their non-heated garage spaces to surrounding companies! Boy that sure was irritating one day when I was late and looking for parking. The non-heated garage was just about full!! FULL!!!